“Woman is not born; she is made. In her making, her humanity is destroyed. She becomes a symbol of this, symbol of that: mother of the earth, slut of the universe; but she never becomes herself because it is forbidden for her to do so.” Andrea Dworkin
Andrea was quite the radical feminist back in the 80’s who wore unflattering overalls and thought all sex with men was rape. I do not agree with her on the rape part but I think she was on to something. Slut shaming; the sexual double standard on crack!
Slut-shaming according to feminism 101 is the idea of attacking a woman expressing her sexuality in a manner that does not conform to patriarchal expectations of women.
The slur “slut” is a weapon casually wielded against women from people of all walks of life. There are many “justifiable reasons” to be called a slut in a world where toxic masculinity is enabled. A woman who ‘throws herself around like a rag doll with raging hormones’ is a slut! Women are only supposed to engage in coitus if they are in love, married or procreating because they have been brainwashed to think enjoying casual sex is an abomination.
The easiest way to express our multi-dimensional personalities and ever evolving identities is through clothes because of the obvious; they can be changed! Seeing a fellow woman show some skin is never a big deal until men are factored in. A woman who shows some cleavage or leg is a slut! Sexually provocative clothing then becomes a woman’s way of saying, “I am a naughty kitten; I secretly want sex but I won’t admit it so I’ll trick you with my body. You are all welcome to jeer and grope.” Conclusion: Women are responsible for the actions of lustful creeps.
The single mother and the baby mama are all sluts! They dared to fornicate and were punished with pregnancy. The divorcees are also sluts! They deserve to be scorned or pitied depending on how they came by their single parenthood. Any woman who is dumped by a man who abandons his responsibilities as a father is not a victim of tragic circumstances, but a scapegoat for false theology and mean-spirited ideologies. They are all whores right?
The world always seems to look better through bloodshot eyes. That is why nothing reeks of the walk of shame than running into a lady on a sunny but chilly morning in a brief bandage dress, dishevelled hair and crazy smudged racoon eyes makeup. Those cheap trashy whores! Instead of the walk of shame, their male counterparts do the stride of pride. They get smirks instead of looks of disgust. Clearly, there is one set of sexual rules for males and another unequal condemnatory set for women.
All women who have had sex are sluts! In fact, any woman who behaves in a way that any man doesn’t like is at risk of being slut-shamed. Virgins have been victims of slut-shaming! Young, nubile women are expected to be beautiful and desirable as well as chaste. Adhering to either end of the spectrum labels you negatively. You are a frigid prude for not giving it up or have a bucket fanny if you do.
You are a slut! You are also a slut! And her! And them! We are all sluts! Men slut-shame us, we slut-shame fellow women, they slut-shame themselves! It’s a vicious cycle. So when do we say enough is enough?
I conclude with this quote from Ferret Steinmetz to his daughter, telling her I hope you have awesome sex: “You are not an extension of my will…consensual sex isn’t something that men take from you; it’s something you give. It doesn’t lessen you to give someone else pleasure. It doesn’t degrade you to have some of your own. And anyone who implies otherwise is a man who probably thinks very poorly of women under the surface.”